:cry: a couple of days ago my husband asked me what I would think if he went in the army, I said I would be proud of him. But after a day or so of thinking about what he said, it hit me. I would be alone! My husband and I got married young, I am 18 and he is 22. Last night I could tell something was on his mind. So I asked him he replied "nothing" I knew he was lying. Then after 20 min. Of talking he finally let it out he wasn't happy with his life, he wanted to do more but he didn't know what, thats why he thought of the military. But he didn't want to do that to me. Then he brought up that he now thinks we got married to quick, but he doesn't regret it at all. He is so confused right now and its breaking my heart. I'm not sure what to do because now I fell unwanted, and i've been thrown off path.

I THINK IF ANYONE HAS BEEN MARRIED OVER A TWENTY YEAR SPAN THEY WILL TELL YOU THE ARGUMENT OF GETTING MARRIED TOO SOON NOT RIGHT OR THE RIGHT TIME OR ANY OTHER IS JUST A WAY OF SAYING SOMETHING IS NOT RIGHT WITH THEMSELVES.....HIM.... WHETHER OR NOT IT WILL WORK OUT IN THE END IS IF HE IS WILLING TO ADMIT HIS ROLE IN HIS UNHAPPINESS.
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POINT...WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME YOU PURCHASED A BEAUTIFUL NEW CAR WENT AROUND IN IT EVERYDAY LOVING IT AND THEN SUDDENLY IT WAS JUST NOT SOMETHING YOU WANTED?
WHAT REASONS DO YOU COME UP WITH? THE CAR DIDN'T CHANGE  OR DID IT?
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The best thing you can do for him right now is pray.  Ask God to ease his mind and give him direction.  Pray for God to give him strength to get through this difficult time.  Pray for God to bless your marriage and to keep all evil from your family.  Finally, pray for yourself, that you can be strong and realize that this is NOT about you.  Pray for patience and kindness to give your husband the space and love he needs.   
 
My thoughts and prayers are with you, 
Allison

My finacee and I  want to join the Peace Corps...maybe if you two do not have children it could be a wonderful adventure for the two of you. You can let him do something great with his life, you too, without the danger and loneliness the amry comes with. You both volunteer 2 1/2 years (you can leave whenever you want you don't have to stay for 1 day even) and get stationed anywhere in the world, it doesn't have to be a hut on an Island you could be in an apartment in Eastern Europe, they place you where you are needed. They give you money to live on and 45 paid days off to travel the world! Then when you are done you get 6k each, that is 12k just for volunteering. I'd have to say that I can't save that much in 2 1/2 years. You two can see the world together and it would be the experience of a life time while helping others in need. We only live once and that is one way to LIVE life, together.

Just a thought, I think it might help us. :)